Were you crazy about horses when you were little? Did you spend all day at the stables with no thought for time until you got hungry and raced off home for tea? I did, totally absorbed in being around ponies, I did not often get to ride them, and I certainly did not own one. I got my dream when my daughter was 12, and we finally got a pony, with everything that goes along with it, riding, grooming, mucking out, trailers, shows and highs and lows. But the best thing is still to just “be” with the pony, even though as a mum, it’s really hard sometimes.
And I see it with other mums too, just too many other things on their mind to remember what it’s like just to hang around with your friends and the ponies. To choose jumping bareback over feed barrels over training for a dressage competition, to take hours pimping your pony when you have not yet cleaned out the stable. So many mums drop off their kids, dash to the supermarket, and do all the other chores on a Saturday only to arrive back at the stables for pick up to find the kids chilling in the canteen, drinking chocolate milk and eating crisps while the tack is still strewn around the stable yard and the pony not yet in their turnout rug.
The scenario plays out one of two ways – mam loses it, and reduces kid to tears for not being ready on time then forces kid to clear up and sort out pony while she waits in the car, seething; or mum gathers together the scattered tack and grooming equipment, then tucks up the pony and gives her a kiss before popping the kid into the car. And there is no right or wrong reaction. It happens because mums have too many deadlines, too much on our minds, too many obligations.
Isn’t it time you claimed back that time to just “be”? Maybe you are not ready to ride again, it may feel a little intimidating to get back in touch with a horse. (they might feel a bit big and scary in comparison to the cute Connemara’s and Welsh Mountain ponies of your childhood.)
That’s one of the reasons I offer equine assisted coaching. Get back in touch with horses, and use them to help you work out the questions that you have now as an adult the same way they helped you when you were young. Questions like: How are you going to combine work and family life? When are you going to take the plunge and apply for that job you know you can do, but not sure you can cope with the interview process? What concrete steps should you take to get your business idea off the ground? Take the time to just “be”, and let the horse help you grow.
If you recognise yourself in this blogpost, do get in touch, and we can set up a session, you, me, and the horse.